Homewrecker

Can I just say- it's so hard being friends with other guys in the LGBT community. Apparently being friends with someone is equidistant to being in love with them. What happened to guys just being able to be friendly without being friendlier?

I guess this is the great misconception that men and women have been facing for years. I've always been told that boys and girls can't be friends- and promptly would look at a female bestie of mine and laugh. It's ridiculous, right? I guess it was so funny to me because I wasn't attracted to women- but I've seen it happen to friends of mine and surely enough- they can't stay friends. Someone ends up falling for the other and it ends in anarchy. It sucks.

Aren't we supposed to be masters of our libidos? Can't we, as people, hold ourselves in place and not instantly fall in love with one another just because of a casual friendship and wonderful connection?

Apparently not.

As of now I am in a preponderance of problems then solutions and I have no clue what to do. On one hand I have a best friend of mine who you may recall as Corey Matthews, who I have since decided that I would rather stay close friends with than go further. I almost wanted to delete some posts about him but hey- I like to show my growth. I love him, really, but I would rather not ruin the first friend that I've had who shares my orientation with trying too much too soon. I fell victim to the 'falling for a friend' trend because he was exactly like a guy should be in the movies.

Luckily I got out of there before any serious damage occurred.

Now. Here's the second situation- I work with some amazing people. I LOVE my job and I love that I have made such amazing friend there- but I am suddenly becoming 'the other woman' to an office relationship. The relationship is a secret that we all know but won't talk about, and I've become pretty good friends with the happy couple- let's call them DuWan and Theo.

I would definitely say I am different kinds of friends with DuWan than I am with Theo. I can joke and play with DuWan, but I can joke and play more with Theo- as well as actually have a serious conversation about things. Maybe it's because Theo is older, or maybe it's just meshing of different personalities- but DuWan has noticed this and DuWan is none to pleased.

So here I am, Bradlee Scott, Homewrecker. Or... possibly in DuWan's eyes I am trying to be. DuWan believes that I am super attracted to Theo and he doesn't like that. Don't get me wrong, Theo is totally cute and adorable and all of the above- but there's no attraction there. He's a friend and nothing more and while I can appreciate BOTH of their good looks- I have nothing but respect for their not-quite-secret-relationship and would want no harm to come to it. Especially if I am the cause of it.

So here I am, trying to avoid any contact with Theo and stay out of their way. Theo has noticed my distance.

Well crap.

What's a boy to do?